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big mo why starting and stopping is self sabotage

Alright, enough with this starting and stopping. Enough with every year making the same resolutions, over and over again. ENOUGH. You have to get mad. As Dave Ramsey says, you have to get sick and tired of being sick and tired. Give this starting and stopping a rest. We are not a tree. We are not stationary. Every time you stop and start again, you are not just picking up where you left off. You are losing covered ground.

When you’re doing all the right things. Every day you are consistently working towards getting better at your goal. Maybe you trip up one day, but you continue on. You don’t stop. You’ll find you’ll meet this guy I know called Big Mo. Big Mo is the momentum you build by sticking with your plan, with your meal plan, with your goals. This guy is on your side and he only shows up when you stay consistent at your goals. Big Mo is a force to be reckoned with.

He’ll inspire you and bring about an abundance of opportunity and success. The more you keep at it, the stronger he gets, and the stronger you get. Every day you push play on your workout, you write those 500 words towards your novel, you refrain from unnecessary spending, whatever it is you’re shooting for, you take one step forward every single day.

Here’s what happens when you stop.

Big Mo get’s a little smaller on the first day. So this one thing comes up and you choose to put your goals on hold. Because it’s ok, you’ll just pick back up right where you left off right? Wrong. Another day, another missed opportunity. Every day your body gets weaker, that creative writing roll you were on loses focus and you forget why you had a no-spend-month goal in the first place and order pizza because it’s Friday. A week goes by, maybe another. Big Mo is nowhere to be found. You decide the break is over, time to reboot those goals you were working on. Well, guess what. It’s harder now.

Those workouts you were crushing last month feel like the first day all over again. You can notice a difference in how you’ve let your nutrition go and how much less energy you have. That novel you were working on requires a read through to remember where you left off. You seem to have forgotten the train of thought you were on and what you were planning next. A waste of precious time. You check your bank account to do your budget again and realize you went over on the ‘eating out’ category by… a lot.

Those are all hypothetical, but they’re very much the truth. See, while you were taking a break, you were taking steps backward. We are not a tree, we are not stationary. We move and flow with life in this weird endless tango.

You may have forgotten what Big Mo looks like, and that’s ok. He’s always a couple days away from showing up. You just have to start, and not stop. No matter what, no matter why.

Sometimes Quitting is the answer.

Now let’s be clear. Some things are not meant to be forever. You have to have a heart to heart conversation with yourself and ask yourself if all this starting and stopping is because of a lack of focus or a lack of PASSION. Once you’ve lost the passion, and you feel like you should go separate ways with what once was your goal, then be honest and ask yourself the hard questions. Don’t keep adding a task to your to do list just because you feel you SHOULD. You need to WANT it. With all of yourself. So keep your chin up. People say winners never quit. But they do quit, all the time. They quit doing things that are not getting them to their goal. And they recalculate often, always ensuring they are headed to where they want to be.

Love, always

Mariangelica

 

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You failed. It happened, and now you can’t stop thinking about it. It’s ok, we’ve all failed before, and guess what, we’ll fail again. But we need to move past it! Here are some tips on how to finally STOP OBSESSING over that time you failed! Time to move on, move forward and get to the next thing.

1. Admit it, but don’t BECOME it.

Don’t let that one thing that didn’t go quite right define who you become. You do not become a failure, ever. Admit that it happened, but don’t let it touch who you are. You are a try-er, and these are the things you have to go through to get to the place you want to be! Our self-esteem drops when we decide to become our fails, and that’s not only damaging but it lowers our frequencies and slows down our progress. Nobody wants or deserves that!!

2. Feel what you feel.

There’s nothing good that’s ever come from ignoring our emotions. Figure out how you really feel and put it into words. Do you feel angry? disappointed? sad? It’s all ok, and guess what? It’s all natural! Allow yourself to feel what you feel. Once you do, it’s time to move on.

3. Turn it to ashes.

Writing something down gets the energy out of your body. Putting your emotions and situations on paper allows you to clear your mind. Truly. So take a moment, and write it down. The failure, your feelings. Put it all out there onto the page. And then, turn it to ashes. Burn the paper and let the ashes fly away and take everything with them. It’s a very freeing moment.

4. Sage it.

You’ve now gotten rid of all these negative thoughts and emotions that were swirling around inside you. Here’s the thing, though, energy lingers. I can’t seem to focus when I have a cluttered space or when it feels stuffy and heavy in the room or in the house. Ever feel that? Like no matter what you did, you still don’t feel quite right? it’s time to clear the negative energy and clean the space around you. Nowadays you can find these things anywhere, but go grab yourself a sage smudge stick and use it. Sage has been used for centuries to clean and purify areas. Make it work even more by saying some positive thoughts as you do this, or pray, whatever you’re into.

5. Let go of other’s opinions.

Sometimes, when we’ve failed it isn’t so much the failure that we get really anxious about, it’s when it’s a public failure. When people know. What will they think now? Deep down we all have this fear of not being respected or believed in, and failing makes us feel less than. But guess what? You’re not the first person to have failed. You’re not the only person in this world that things have not turned out for. So let go of the care for what other’s think of you because you tried, and somewhere along the way, you will succeed, and that day, you’ll know that it was all your hard work, your dedication, and your drive to stop obsessing about that one time you failed.

Love always,

Mariangelica

 

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