Big Mo – Why starting and stopping is self sabotage.

big mo why starting and stopping is self sabotage

Alright, enough with this starting and stopping. Enough with every year making the same resolutions, over and over again. ENOUGH. You have to get mad. As Dave Ramsey says, you have to get sick and tired of being sick and tired. Give this starting and stopping a rest. We are not a tree. We are not stationary. Every time you stop and start again, you are not just picking up where you left off. You are losing covered ground.

When you’re doing all the right things. Every day you are consistently working towards getting better at your goal. Maybe you trip up one day, but you continue on. You don’t stop. You’ll find you’ll meet this guy I know called Big Mo. Big Mo is the momentum you build by sticking with your plan, with your meal plan, with your goals. This guy is on your side and he only shows up when you stay consistent at your goals. Big Mo is a force to be reckoned with.

He’ll inspire you and bring about an abundance of opportunity and success. The more you keep at it, the stronger he gets, and the stronger you get. Every day you push play on your workout, you write those 500 words towards your novel, you refrain from unnecessary spending, whatever it is you’re shooting for, you take one step forward every single day.

Here’s what happens when you stop.

Big Mo get’s a little smaller on the first day. So this one thing comes up and you choose to put your goals on hold. Because it’s ok, you’ll just pick back up right where you left off right? Wrong. Another day, another missed opportunity. Every day your body gets weaker, that creative writing roll you were on loses focus and you forget why you had a no-spend-month goal in the first place and order pizza because it’s Friday. A week goes by, maybe another. Big Mo is nowhere to be found. You decide the break is over, time to reboot those goals you were working on. Well, guess what. It’s harder now.

Those workouts you were crushing last month feel like the first day all over again. You can notice a difference in how you’ve let your nutrition go and how much less energy you have. That novel you were working on requires a read through to remember where you left off. You seem to have forgotten the train of thought you were on and what you were planning next. A waste of precious time. You check your bank account to do your budget again and realize you went over on the ‘eating out’ category by… a lot.

Those are all hypothetical, but they’re very much the truth. See, while you were taking a break, you were taking steps backward. We are not a tree, we are not stationary. We move and flow with life in this weird endless tango.

You may have forgotten what Big Mo looks like, and that’s ok. He’s always a couple days away from showing up. You just have to start, and not stop. No matter what, no matter why.

Sometimes Quitting is the answer.

Now let’s be clear. Some things are not meant to be forever. You have to have a heart to heart conversation with yourself and ask yourself if all this starting and stopping is because of a lack of focus or a lack of PASSION. Once you’ve lost the passion, and you feel like you should go separate ways with what once was your goal, then be honest and ask yourself the hard questions. Don’t keep adding a task to your to do list just because you feel you SHOULD. You need to WANT it. With all of yourself. So keep your chin up. People say winners never quit. But they do quit, all the time. They quit doing things that are not getting them to their goal. And they recalculate often, always ensuring they are headed to where they want to be.

Love, always

Mariangelica

 

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14 Comments

  1. March 28, 2017 / 5:27 pm

    Great outlook on changing goals and directions without the guilt!

    • Mariangelica
      March 30, 2017 / 1:02 pm

      Guilt is a tricky feeling!

  2. March 28, 2017 / 5:46 pm

    In the past I’ve been SO bad at this. Really working on consistency this year!

    • Mariangelica
      March 30, 2017 / 1:02 pm

      You’re better off than not trying so you’re already winning!

  3. March 28, 2017 / 5:47 pm

    Love your point about winners quitting things that are not getting them to their goal. That’s such a relevant point and one that we often forget when we’re sucked up in an “I should” mentality.

    • Mariangelica
      March 30, 2017 / 1:04 pm

      totally! once i heard that, I was like YES!!

  4. March 28, 2017 / 5:53 pm

    Such a great message and outlook! Simply changing the way you look at things can be all it takes to turn things around.

    • Mariangelica
      March 30, 2017 / 1:05 pm

      For sure!! Different outlook solves many issues!

  5. March 28, 2017 / 6:33 pm

    I am not a quitter. I keep on trucking. I rarely if ever quit. And honestly, I may have stopped doing some things I used to do, but I wouldn’t call myself a quitter. I would call myself a perceptive person who is simply trying to better herself 😉

    • Mariangelica
      March 30, 2017 / 1:06 pm

      Another way to say the same thing, but yes. Exactly. Quit doing some things and start doing better things.

  6. March 28, 2017 / 7:23 pm

    This is a great message. Some times taking time to reassess and evaluate your goals and objectives is as equally as important as persevering through your current ones!!
    Thank you for sharing!!

    • Mariangelica
      March 30, 2017 / 1:07 pm

      Wonderfully worded. Thank you for this! Happy you enjoyed it!!

  7. March 29, 2017 / 6:19 pm

    Making sure you are really heading into the direction you want to go is most important I believe. Definitely lots of food for thought here.

    • Mariangelica
      March 30, 2017 / 1:07 pm

      thanks! happy you found something interesting in the post!