big mo why starting and stopping is self sabotage

Alright, enough with this starting and stopping. Enough with every year making the same resolutions, over and over again. ENOUGH. You have to get mad. As Dave Ramsey says, you have to get sick and tired of being sick and tired. Give this starting and stopping a rest. We are not a tree. We are not stationary. Every time you stop and start again, you are not just picking up where you left off. You are losing covered ground.

When you’re doing all the right things. Every day you are consistently working towards getting better at your goal. Maybe you trip up one day, but you continue on. You don’t stop. You’ll find you’ll meet this guy I know called Big Mo. Big Mo is the momentum you build by sticking with your plan, with your meal plan, with your goals. This guy is on your side and he only shows up when you stay consistent at your goals. Big Mo is a force to be reckoned with.

He’ll inspire you and bring about an abundance of opportunity and success. The more you keep at it, the stronger he gets, and the stronger you get. Every day you push play on your workout, you write those 500 words towards your novel, you refrain from unnecessary spending, whatever it is you’re shooting for, you take one step forward every single day.

Here’s what happens when you stop.

Big Mo get’s a little smaller on the first day. So this one thing comes up and you choose to put your goals on hold. Because it’s ok, you’ll just pick back up right where you left off right? Wrong. Another day, another missed opportunity. Every day your body gets weaker, that creative writing roll you were on loses focus and you forget why you had a no-spend-month goal in the first place and order pizza because it’s Friday. A week goes by, maybe another. Big Mo is nowhere to be found. You decide the break is over, time to reboot those goals you were working on. Well, guess what. It’s harder now.

Those workouts you were crushing last month feel like the first day all over again. You can notice a difference in how you’ve let your nutrition go and how much less energy you have. That novel you were working on requires a read through to remember where you left off. You seem to have forgotten the train of thought you were on and what you were planning next. A waste of precious time. You check your bank account to do your budget again and realize you went over on the ‘eating out’ category by… a lot.

Those are all hypothetical, but they’re very much the truth. See, while you were taking a break, you were taking steps backward. We are not a tree, we are not stationary. We move and flow with life in this weird endless tango.

You may have forgotten what Big Mo looks like, and that’s ok. He’s always a couple days away from showing up. You just have to start, and not stop. No matter what, no matter why.

Sometimes Quitting is the answer.

Now let’s be clear. Some things are not meant to be forever. You have to have a heart to heart conversation with yourself and ask yourself if all this starting and stopping is because of a lack of focus or a lack of PASSION. Once you’ve lost the passion, and you feel like you should go separate ways with what once was your goal, then be honest and ask yourself the hard questions. Don’t keep adding a task to your to do list just because you feel you SHOULD. You need to WANT it. With all of yourself. So keep your chin up. People say winners never quit. But they do quit, all the time. They quit doing things that are not getting them to their goal. And they recalculate often, always ensuring they are headed to where they want to be.

Love, always

Mariangelica

 

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new year

The New Year, it’s finally here. I’m trying to think back to how I felt the last time I was in a new year and honestly, I just remember being happy. Being excited, and I feel very much the same now.

This past year:

We bought a house!

We reached the healthiest point in our lives. Though we lost our way after some unexpected events, we are going to get back there again.

We hosted many events full of friends, family, laughter and good company.

We made some amazing plans for the future wich we are still realizing today.

I saw many women completely change their life through my monthly challenge groups and was so humbled by it.

My husband and I had an incredibly difficult loss that brought us to the lowest points emotionally but we climbed out together, stronger than ever.

I lost an amazing uncle whom I will forever keep close to my heart.

I strengthened my relationship with all my female cousins thought the magic that is a WhatsApp group. I am so grateful for the opportunity that although many countries are between us we are all able to get to know more of each other and form a true sisterhood.

This new year, I’ve set some resolutions and goals that are trackable, and are specific and hopefully, this way will not get tossed to the wind:

I will workout 182 days out of the 365 days of the year.

I will eat 80% clean and reduce my dairy intake.

I will continue to grow in this beautiful marriage my husband and I have forged for ourselves.

We will travel to someplace warm.

We will pay off all of our debt, excluding our home.

I will take more videos of my husband, Congo and me. Photos are pretty but videos are special. I know we’ll love looking back through them in the future.

New year - family photo

I wish you the greatest year, filled with love, positivity, and happiness. I wish for your dreams to come true and the determination to achieve all the goals you have set for yourself.

Love,

Mariangelica

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