the second trimester

A collection of passages from various journal entries during the second trimester.

3 months

  • “Sometimes the fear still creeps in. I sill see myself having to tell everyone we lost the baby, but then I push those thoughts away.”
  • “Yesterday was good, I was able to eat a few things, and cooking has been happening a little more at home. I started to get anxious and worried in the evening when I continued to feel good. I tried to push the thoughts away but it was hard work. We went to the midwife appointment and heard it, for the first time. The baby’s little heart beat. Strong and fast. It was unreal. We were quiet, we just listened, I didn’t want it to end.”

 

4 months

  • “Honestly I don’t know how we got here, but then I do, one day at a time. There is an avocado sized baby inside me, it blows my mind. No one can tell because all the vomiting has kept my stomach flatter than ever before. But we heard the heartbeat, they are really in there!”
  • “I turn 28 soon. It feels crazy to me because I’ve generally disliked my birthdays and the idea of getting a year older, but being so close to 30 I figured i’d be having some mental breakdown haha. Suddenly though, my view has changed. I’ve been able to enjoy all these years in my 20s to the max. I have moved ahead in my career and have spent so much quality time with my husband. We’ve enjoyed all these years of it being just us and Congo and it has been amazing. We’ve done crazy things and seen the world. None of this has to change of course, and heck, there’s still TWO long full years ahead in my 20s, but my 30s now look so exciting.”
  • “I am full of gratefulness for all of the wonderful things in my life. I am grateful to be pregnant in this moment, for not wanting for anything but the healthy baby boy or girl to come join us in this life. I am overjoyed in happiness daily. I thank God, above all.”
  • “I am grateful for this moment in our lives, for the life growing inside me.”
  • “I am hopeful that those that continue to hope and pray for a child will be blessed with one.”
  • “Fear will not allow me to do what I know I am able to do, so I refuse it and prohibit it from coming anywhere near my pregnancy and birth.”

 

5 months

  • “I am starting to fall in love with this tiny belly of mine. It’s taking a little bit of shape, but overall it’s small and still most people at work don’t know. But it’s the way my body is shaped, it’s the way it’s growing this little baby and honestly as long as they are healthy there is no need to worry about whether my belly is round or flat at this moment.”
  • “I think I felt the baby move, but I can’t be sure, it’s not like I know what that would feel like… I had just eaten so I wasn’t sure if it had just been my stomach processing food but it felt like a rolling motion. We’ll have to wait and see!”
  • “We started setting up the nursery! Moved the home office to a different room and things are taking shape!”

 

6 months

  • “This little guy has been so active lately! The feeling is surreal and amazing. Feeling him move catches me by surprise and instantly makes me smile.”
  • “I have been feeling so good now! I’m still in my regular jeans and regular clothes, but I can see the roundness will be coming soon!”
  • “I haven’t thrown up in a few days so that’s been incredible. I haven’t had the energy to work out throughout this pregnancy, mostly the vomiting and lack of food has kept me from it, but I can see I have the energy now, so I’m excited to make that happen in the near future.”
  • “Finally picked up all the big items we needed, like a stroller, crib, car seat etc and we’re waiting for them to be delivered. It’s feeling so real!”

 

“My darling baby boy, we lost your brother or sister one month before you showed up. Reading back the entries of my journal I realize how fragile you are, and have been this whole time. You too were the size of an orange seed once… and it’s wild to think you’re as big as a bunch of kale now. You’re huge little one! Your kicks made my tummy move last night for the first time and I sat there, staring at the little bumps you made in awe of your strength. You are amazing, strong and so incredibly loved. The entries of my journal count back all the days with you, and I smile at the relief and celebration of making it another day together. Look how far we’ve come my love, one day at a time has led us here, to week 27, the last week of this wild and incredible second trimester. 91 days to go, already on the double digits and I’m ready to meet you. Yes, our lives will change more than we know but I’m ready for it all.

Love you always,

Mom.”


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NEW MOM MONDAYS CHASING LITTLES
This post is part of the New Mom Monday series! A series about moms and their advice to new moms! Books and videos can only teach us so much, but there’s something special about hearing from real life moms. Honest, true, and always beautifully inspiring!!
♥ What’s your Name?

Britney Mills

♥ Tell us a little about yourself!
I am the mom to 4 children, wife to Max. I love to write and chocolate chip cookies are my jam. Laundry is the most neglected thing in my home until we’re out of things and then it’s an all-day marathon. I love to travel and can’t wait to do more again. I love to play volleyball and softball and try out new things. I love to try new foods and places and I love spending time with my family, whether we’re curled up watching a movie or outside running around.
♥ How many kids do you have? What are their names and ages?
We have 4 kiddos: C is 3, G & D (boys) & M (girl) are 8-month old triplets.
♥ How do you find your “me time”?
Nap time and bed time for sure. Max helps out a lot when he gets home and I can run a quick errand but 5-8 pm is chaos so I usually try to get out after they’re asleep.
♥ What is the best baby related book you’ve ever read?
I haven’t really read books for babies, mostly websites and advice I get in Mommy Facebook groups.
♥ What’s the most useful baby product you have? Why do you love it?

The Nose Frida. I was a little weirded out by it when I first saw my SIL use one because it’s a long tube that helps you suck out the boogers but with triplets, it’s a must have! I gets things out so much better than the blue bulb suckers and it’s pretty inexpensive.

♥ If you could say something to yourself when you first brought home your first baby, what would you say?
With our first I was like, “I’ve got this!” and there were only a few bumps along the way. Bringing home the triplets was a little overwhelming and I would probably tell myself that each phase only lasts a little while. It’s not forever, thank goodness because this girl needs sleep. They are sleeping through the night for the most part now which helps me avoid zombieland.
♥ How much planning did you do before your baby was born, and how do you think that it helped or didn’t help?
I didn’t do a lot with my first, just had baby showers. That probably sounds bad because I didn’t know any better, I guess. With the three, I checked out what all the moms of multiples recommended and it made a huge difference to be prepared for when they came home, since it takes more time to load them all up and go to the store.
♥ What do you believe are the top three pieces of advice a new mom or someone trying to conceive should know?
Don’t put your life on hold because you don’t know when you’ll get pregnant. I struggle with infertility and it’s better to make plans, go on trips and push yourself to reach goals than to mope about not being pregnant. It will happen one way or another and you can use that time to better yourself and be closer to your spouse.
♥ What is your best memory so far of being a mom?

C playing with the babies. He’s so good at talking to them and helping them when I can’t get to them right off (usually when the others are in my arms). I was worried he would have trouble adjusting from all the attention but we make sure to take him out and do stuff with him alone.

♥ Give us the short form version of your birth story.
With C, I went 41 weeks and had to have an emergency c-section because he was 9 lbs! With the triplets, we had to go to a hospital a bit farther away from our home because of the NICU to take care of the babies. I was sent there five days before the triplets were born because my water ruptured. I had to go through steroid shots to help their lungs and on Friday I finally started contracting on my own. They wheeled me into the operating room, gave me a spinal block and then the doctor started. I couldn’t see the babies and they were taken directly to the NICU nurses to assess but Max would tell me they were okay as I waited. He took pictures of them so I could see them because I was taken back to the room to wait an hour or two until they wheeled me into the NICU. They had all three in their own little isolettes, or enclosed cribs, and we had to wait a month before they could come home.
♥ Lastly, for fun, define motherhood!

The craziest, most exhausting and funny rollercoaster I’ve ever been on. You’re tugged in so many directions but somehow you make it through and I love it!

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♥ What’s your Name?

Pragati Siddhanti

♥ Tell us a little about yourself!
I am Pragati—am the co-founder and partner at Be For Beauty. Earlier in 2016, I relocated to the picturesque city of Basel, Switzerland with my 6-year-old daughter and a workaholic husband. After giving up my 6 figure salary and role as an IT manager in India, I decided it was time to take a leap of faith and dedicate this time to grow and hone both our babies, Niyati and Be For Beauty.
♥ How many kids do you have? What are their names and ages?
I have one daughter who is 6 years old. Her name is Niyati
♥ How do you find your “me time”?
While this is something I really struggle with especially after I moved from India to Switzerland but I still manage to squeeze in a lot of “me” time as I always plan my days, weeks and months in advance. I use a calendar to track all my appointments, I make sure I have laundry days marked and I have all the different bags (gym, ballet, school etc.) ready and packed in advance. I seriously plan my meals along with my outings. Even if it’s an hour in the gym, my “me-time” is extremely important to me, and frankly, that’s what keeps me sane.
♥ What is the best baby related book you’ve ever read?
I have read a lot of story books to my child even when she hadn’t started speaking, however, I am not a big fan of parenting books. I do read up blogs, and advice by fellow mamma’s through a number of FB groups I subscribe to.
♥ What’s the most useful baby product you have? Why do you love it?

When she was a little baby, I swore by the bottle steriliser that I had bought from mother care and the swaddle that I used to carry her in while putting her to sleep. It really worked like a charm for us. But now, nothing really, I would really like alternates to netflix and the tablet.

♥ If you could say something to yourself when you first brought home your first baby, what would you say?
I was really unprepared when I brought her home from the hospital. If I could say something to myself, I would say, “Wish you’d have read up more about how to raise a baby vs how your pregnancy is going to be.” In other words, I would have really loved if I had been more prepared for this sea change that happened to me. I was overwhelmed and I went through serious postpartum depression.
♥ How much planning did you do before your baby was born, and how do you think that it helped or didn’t help?
Like I said in my previous answer, I wasn’t prepared and that hurt me quite a bit. I had to rush to the baby stores time and again as the things I had were never enough and I had a very reactive approach to a new born child. I would have loved being more confident and proactive with her. This is when I had learned the importance of planning ahead. (Not at my corporate job, after all this was the most important project I was ever going to manage ;))
♥ What do you believe are the top three pieces of advice a new mom or someone trying to conceive should know?
1. Plan a child, be ready – emotionally, mentally and physically. It’s not easy dealing with unplanned and accidental pregnancies.
2. Whether you go to those fancy birthing classes or not, make sure you have a lactation specialist by your side. That is more important. Giving birth is an organic and natural process, a woman is sub-consciously trained to do a good job at it – I didn’t practice any of the breathing techniques I learned and I sincerely believe that these classes are over rated.
3. Be prepared to welcome a new member in the house – nothing is ever going to be the same. You will never have the luxury of time so use those 9 months of pregnancy very wisely.
♥ What is your best memory so far of being a mom?

I really say this from my heart, every day with a child in your life is a blessing. Every year gets more fascinating than the one that went by. I don’t know how to pick one, every time she tells me that I am the best mom in the whole wide world, I am overjoyed. Not cuz of the oscar that she keeps giving me, cuz I know that all mothers are the best mothers but that she appreciates all the little things that I do and that she reciprocates the love.

♥ Give us the short form version of your birth story.
Giving birth to Niyati has and will be one of the toughest things I have ever done in my life. I still feel that I almost died but then I came back to life because I was a mother and the journey called life was just about to begin. I was past my due date so I was induced, I was obviously anxious as I was late and I was trying all home remedies to go into labour – however nothing was working. The contractions started but the dilation didn’t – hence I was in labour for a good 28 hours. The pain became excruciating during the last hours, the epidural didn’t work as it was put in quite late and I pushed for really long before she arrived. My husband and my sister were right by my side, I really had no love for anyone at this point as I was delirious with pain by the end of it. But when I saw her, she completely took my breath away, I was still being sewed down there when they wrapped her up and got her to me. She was perfect and an absolute miracle!
♥ Lastly, for fun, define motherhood!

Motherhood is not for everyone, motherhood is extremely exhausting and rewarding at the same time. Like a wise woman once said, “Having a child is like having a tattoo on your forehead”.

To hear more from Pragati be sure to visit her blog Be For Beauty and follow her on Instagram.

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♥ What’s your Name?

Tyane Milem

♥ Tell us a little about yourself!
I’m a boymom of four who began blogging while my husband traveled for work. I’m a work-at-home administrative assistant by day and blogger at night. To add on to my full plate, I also homeschool my oldest. When I do have the free time, I love to read, write, cook and bake, spend time outdoors, and watch sports. My idea of a relaxing night involves a good read and glass of wine.
♥ How many kids do you have? What are their names and ages?
I have FOUR boys…Landon is 10, Logan is 8, Rylan is 5, and Greyson is 3.
♥ How do you find your “me time”?
I’m a night owl. My kids go to bed by 8 PM and I spend my time catching up with blog work, reading, or spending time with my husband.
♥ What is the best baby related book you’ve ever read?
What to Expect While You Are Expecting. I read that book each time I found out I was pregnant.
♥ What’s the most useful baby product you have? Why do you love it?

Dr. Brown’s bottles. My oldest had colic, BAD. I used the bottles with him and the other three, and they helped eliminate gas bubbles like crazy!

♥ If you could say something to yourself when you first brought home your first baby, what would you say?
Sleep while the baby sleeps. Even if it’s for 10 minutes. The housework can wait, and this is your time to recover and bond with the baby.
♥ How much planning did you do before your baby was born, and how do you think that it helped or didn’t help?
Not much. We had the basics (the crib, stroller, swings, etc.) and I did some nesting a few weeks before delivery, but nothing major.
♥ What do you believe are the top three pieces of advice a new mom or someone trying to conceive should know?
1. Do not hesitate to ask for help. You need to take care of yourself before you take care of anyone else, especially during the first few weeks.
2. Plan a date night with your spouse every week. You don’t have to go out, but setting aside alone time with your spouse will help you keep a spark in your marriage.
3. Cherish each and every moment you can. It goes by way too fast!
♥ What is your best memory so far of being a mom?

I love that I can stay home with them and watch them grow and learn every day.

♥ Give us the short form version of your birth story.
While I have four different birth stories, I will share my last one. It was a bittersweet moment because I knew it was the last c-section I would have. I would give birth one last time. They prepped me at 9:30 with the spinal block and everything else. Then, they brought my husband in to start the procedure at 9:50. By 10:03 AM, my final son was born (with all the scar tissue in play, I was SHOCKED it went that quick). While I was a little emotional because it was the last time I would experience the birth, I was relieved because I don’t have to face another c-section and long recovery period.
♥ Lastly, for fun, define motherhood!

Motherhood-a memorable, exhausting, rewarding joy ride of your life.

To hear more from Tyane be sure to visit her blog BoyMom Blessed and follow her on Pinterest.

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♥ What’s your Name?

Holly

♥ Tell us a little about yourself!
Most importantly, I am a wife to a wonderful husband and a mom to a beautiful baby girl and our sweet dog Lucy. I am also a 4th grade teacher by day and by night (while the baby sleeps) I have fun keeping a blog all about natural living, baking, making and motherhood.
♥ How many kids do you have? What are their names and ages?
My baby girl Easton is almost 5 months old.
♥ How do you find your “me time”?
I find “me time” while the baby is napping and on my 30-minute drive to and from work!
♥ What is the best baby related book you’ve ever read?
The Mindful Mom to Be
♥ What’s the most useful baby product you have? Why do you love it?

My ring sling!  I have used it since my baby girl was just a few days old to keep her close while I get things done around the house!  She loves to be carried around and I am able to be productive!

♥ If you could say something to yourself when you first brought home your first baby, what would you say?
 Just enjoy your time with the baby and your new little family.  Limit visiting time by other family members and make anyone that does visit bring a meal, because making food will be the last thing on your mind.
♥ How much planning did you do before your baby was born, and how do you think that it helped or didn’t help?
I did A LOT of planning because I am just a planner by nature.  In some ways it was very helpful, but in other ways, there is no way to prepare for a new baby because each baby is different and will like or need different things.  I’m just glad we had an Amazon Prime membership with 2-day shipping!
♥ What do you believe are the top three pieces of advice a new mom or someone trying to conceive should know?
1. RELAX.  Everything will find a way to work itself out.
2. Enjoy your time with your partner or significant other before the baby is here.  Seriously. This is SO important!  Even if you have wonderful babysitters who are available to help out and watch the baby from time to time, you won’t be able to completely relax because you will be worrying about the baby in the back of your mind. It just won’t be the same!  So go on as many date nights as you can now!
3. Every baby is different so do not have any expectations about what your newborn will be like.  For instance, some newborns will sleep all the time, no matter where you are and some newborns will not sleep, like ever *cough* my baby *cough*!  Just know that everything is a phase and it’s ok if your baby isn’t a “typical” baby!
♥ What is your best memory so far of being a mom?

Other than seeing my baby girl for the first time, hearing her first real giggle was pretty amazing!  I’ll never get sick of it!

♥ Give us the short form version of your birth story.

I gave birth in a hospital with a midwife.  After almost exactly 48 hours of labor, many spent at home, 3 of them where I was pushing, I had the natural birth I had been hoping for, thanks in large part to a supportive husband and an amazing midwife.  I did not expect labor to be nearly as long or hard as it was, but after going through it, I can say it was not only the hardest, but most rewarding accomplishment of my life!  I seriously felt like superwoman afterward and know that if I could make it through a 48 hour labor and an unmedicated birth, I can do anything!

♥ Lastly, for fun, define motherhood!

The most wonderful, hardest thing you will ever experience!!

To hear more from Holly be sure to visit her blog Hollybbaking.

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